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#LoveYourPerson: 10 Creative Ways to Love Your Spouse

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Whether you’ve been with your significant other for a few months or a few decades, it’s easy to get into a routine. Work, school, kids, social events, family obligations…the list goes on and on of the things that can distract us from that most important person in our life. And sometimes these distractions can even make the daily peck kisses as you walk out the door, or “I love yous” and “honeys” while talking on the phone seem insignificant or lose their meaning. So to celebrate February right and enjoy our week to #LoveYourPerson, we’ve put together some ideas you can use to really reconnect with your loved one and let them know you care…without breaking the bank.  

 

Prepare a spa night

For just a dollar or two, you can pick up some great one-time use face masks at any grocery store, or make your own with ingredients at home. You can offer to give them a foot massage while they relax, or if nothing else, just warm them a fresh towel in the dryer while they take a shower.  Even this small quick act will let them know that they are on your mind.

 

Start or end the day with an intentional hug

You know that feeling, usually when someone has passed away, or something truly difficult has happened, and people hold on to one another for a bit too long? When both parties are invested in this type of embrace, it often has a healing effect, as it exhibits true caring and concern for another person. So why do we save those hugs for only when things are really tough? Make it a point to give your spouse that kind of hug on purpose, at least once a day. You’ll be amazed at how much easier other aspects of your relationship will turn out to be or how much your communication will improve.

Do a chore that is normally their responsibility…cheerfully

Many couples come up with a system at some point that just “works” for them. “He hates laundry, I don’t mind it.” “I take out the garbage because she prefers dusting.” You have it all figured out by now! What we may not be considering in these agreements is that is disconnects us by compartmentalizing. Shake things up by doing something for them, with a smile. Take note that they may not notice this one right away if at all, so it’s important to check that your intention is to truly serve and love, with or without accolades or gratitude. You’ll feel the difference when you show true charity to your S.O., even if they don’t notice the action.

 

Serve them breakfast in bed

This tried-and-true act of service is a classic for a reason. Get crazy and try to do this on an out-of-the-blue weekday, not just Sunday morning or the day of Valentine’s, and the extra effort will be even more appreciated. Your partner will be sure of your love if you woke up a whole hour early just to make them feel special on a random Tuesday. Keep in mind their favorite french toast and omelet are great, but simple cereal and coffee count, too.

Transform a room in your house into a getaway

For all those “It’s a Wonderful Life” fans out there, you’ve probably already thought about how fun this could be for you and your spouse. Pick a room in your house, and a destination in the world.  With a little creativity you’ll be surprised how many things you already own can evoke a different time or place: you can build a blanket fort and go “camping” in Yosemite, fill the bathtub and take a “cruise” through the Caribbean with mai tais and bikinis, or make the floor in your bedroom a picnic of English tea with “crumpets” and jam or cucumber sandwiches.  Make it fun, make it cheesy, but simply doing something different together will make a memory for you both without the huge cost and commitment of an actual vacation.

 

Make TV time actual bonding time

There may be days when what you really need is time together to just “veg” out.  Make this relaxing time still intentional by creating intimacy through discussion. Pick shows that explore new interests you could try together, or be open to pausing movies which address topics that are interesting to talk through. Likewise, you could also make it a service moment by handing over the remote and giving your husband or wife free reign for a night. Stay engaged and ask them about something they love that may not be your thing.

Get “flours” as a gift for your S.O. instead of boring old flowers!

Or try a number of different punny gifts that take a romantic gesture up a notch by keeping it light! Just like this example inspired by the Will Ferrell movie, “Stranger than Fiction,” if you make them smile or laugh…you’ve done something right. Some of our favorites include a box of Krispy Kremes with a note that reads, “Donut go breaking my heart!” or paint a unique succulent pot with the transcription “Life would succ without you.”  

 

Prepare her toothbrush in the morning, or iron his clothes

We all have tiny little tasks that busy up our mornings. Pick just one to do that will help out your loved one—if you really want extra brownie points, try to do something every morning for a couple days or a full week. The little tasks like putting toothpaste on her brush, setting out his socks and shoes, or scraping off their car on a wintery day will make their world so much brighter…even if just for a few hours.

Have a love language night

Most couples have at least heard of Gary Chapman’s famous book, “The Five Love Languages.” The book is a self-guided tour for you and your spouse on determining, and supporting, one another’s key love languages, i.e. the way you communicate or express love. The types of love Chapman lists out are quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, and acts of service. If you’re unfamiliar with this ideology take an evening to do the quiz together and discuss the various topics. Or if you are old pros at the big 5, take a night to do something themed around your partner’s primary love language. The simple act of creating awareness for the others’ thought and emotional process will draw you so much closer.

 

Hide a love note for him/her somewhere unexpected

Last, but certainly not least on our list is a challenge to explore the power of written word. Throughout the centuries, this form of affection has been a powerful tool…from Napoleon Bonaparte and Josephine de Beauharnais to Johnny Cash and June Carter, many times one simple letter has transformed history. Transform your marriage with this same tactic and put down on paper not just that you love your partner, but also how and why and where and for how long.  This will be a keepsake for them, and another physical reminder of gratitude and charity for you. Make it extra fun by hiding it in a place they wouldn’t anticipate and let you be surprised as well when they finally find it.  Our favorite ideas include: a coat pocket, their shaving kit, or the visor in their car—get creative!

I love myself because…

By | All Posts, DIY, Health & Fitness, Inspiration

In this first full week of February we’re focusing on YOU focusing on YOURSELF. We often give so much of ourselves to others and focus on all the other positive things about others, while neglecting to treat ourselves the same way we treat our BFF.

To start this off, we’ve got a printable for you! Pick which size you’d like (4×6″ or 5×7″), pick the design you want, print it out, cut it out, put it in your favorite frame and write yourself a message each day on the glass using a dry erase marker. That way you’ve got a daily love note to yourself of why you’re seriously amazing.

Download the 4×6″ printable

Download the 5×7″ printable

And if you feel like it — share it with us by using #slwslovesme2

Examples below:

Sending Greetings (Printable Postcard)

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It’s always a good idea to send a good message. For that friend you haven’t seen in months, or the one you saw this afternoon, print out the Hello postcard and send a positive message about why you love them their way! Click this link to print. (If you don’t want to mail it, you could even just save the image and attach to an email or message.)

And ask them if they want to come with you to the Salt Lake Women’s Show while you’re at it 😉

Making your resolutions become a reality

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Happy new year!

 

Now that all the holiday craziness is over (anyone else exhausted, but also sad that the lights are starting to come down?), you may be feeling like it’s the right time to reflect, refocus and reevaluate for 2018.

 

 

New Year’s resolutions can be daunting. Full of hope and promise at the start, and then you miss a workout in the morning because you realize you’ve only been getting four hours of sleep. Eating is practically exercising, right?

 

Well, we’re here to help create realistic, achievable goals – and provide the plan to lay it out.

 

When making a goal, it’s best to be SMART about it. “SMART” meaning:

  • Specific – What do you want to improve? Be specific.
  • Measurable – Make a goal that you can easily measure your progress.
  • Assignable – Who will do what task in this goal? Probably you!
  • Realistic – Be realistic about the goals and the results that will be achieved.
  • Time-related – Give yourself a reasonable amount of time to acheive these goals. 

SMART goals go way back — they’re attributed to a November 1981 issue of Management Review that contained the article There’s a S.M.A.R.T. way to write management’s goals and objectives, by George T. Doran — and continue to be effective today beyond the business world.

Additional tips:

Write it down.

Or type it up. But, at least record your goals somewhere that is easily seen every day. By writing down your goals, you can both reference and be accountable for them.

 

 

Be detailed.

Want to “be healthier”? What does that mean to you? How will you be healthier? If that means more exercise, where will you exercise and when? And, for how long? What’s something measurable that you can include to help you to know you’re achieving your goal?

 

 

Categorize/Prioritize

Split your goals into categories or priorities such as education, fitness, health, relationships, spiritual or adventures/travel.

 

 

Try to focus on one at a time.

So you want to learn a new language, exercise five days a week for 30 minutes, go for a hike once a week, drink one smoothie per day, finish grad school, travel to three foreign countries, read for an hour a day, and spend more time with your friends and family? You totally have our support! But try to pace yourself. Attempting to achieve all goals in the first month of the year might result in a burn-out or a feeling of defeat where you give up on all of them.

 

 

Next day focus.

You made a resolution to work out five days a week, but this week you only worked out four. Give up while you still can? No! You’ve got a new day, another week ahead. Just refocus and do your best to reach your goal.

 

Do seasonal check-ins.

We recommend after setting your goals to make calendar reminders each season to check them and adjust what may be needed.

 

Involve others.

You don’t need to do this alone. Have your family and friends join in by making their own resolutions, and make some goals together. It’s always good to have something to work toward together.

See yourself achieving.

Imagine what it would feel like to achieve your goal at the different stages you’ve set. See it, believe it, want it, achieve it.

 

To help you out, follow this link to download a printout for all your new year’s goal-setting needs.